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Issue 96: My New Year's Resolution: No More Resolutions

Dec 30, 2022

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My New Year’s Resolution: No More Resolutions

Stop making resolutions. Don’t do it this year. Avoid the disappointment, frustration and the feeling that you’re a failure. Because you’re not — a failure. If it resonates with you, in this New Year, just “be” who you were meant to be, which is who you are now, which may change from time to time, but all that is ok. Look at yourself in the mirror, pat yourself on the back and smile instead. Look directly into your eyes and say,

“I am happy for you. I am grateful for you. Thank you for showing up every day and doing the best that you can. I appreciate you and I love you. I allow everything to flow effortlessly and trust that everything is unfolding to bring me to my highest good.”

Each New Year’s Eve, many of us diligently put together lists of things we want to change in our lives. It could be a relationship, job, career, to be happier, to keep in touch with loved ones more, to lose weight, drink less, and the list does go on. But, the more I learn about myself, the more I learn about others and vice versa. Lists of things just written out and hoped for don’t generally work out. We may work towards these wishes feverishly for a few weeks but then our focus fizzles out and we are back in our uncomfortable comfort zones until the end of the year comes around again.

It’s a never-ending gerbil wheel and unnecessary.

Do this instead.

If you already made one, tear it up now and burn it. If you haven’t started, don’t. If you are at the beginning of it scratch it out. Now, take that pen and write down 20 things that make you happy and grateful. It could be how you feel, something you have, things you’re able to do, goals to help you grow, marvelous events of the past, present and future.

Whenever we are making resolutions, we are saying that whatever we are doing, wherever we are in our journey—none of it is right or good enough, and that we are supposed to be somewhere else, doing or receiving something else other than what is happening right now or what we have right now.

Making a resolution takes us away from the now. Don’t get me wrong. Change is good and can be part of your growth, but it must flow without resistance. It is not a crime to desire change and use your higher mental faculty of imagination to visualize a worthy goal, but only as a means of establishing direction. If you follow your passion, your intuition will guide you to where you are meant to go. And, you may end up at the exact place where your imagination took you over and over again, or at a place beyond your expectations. Divine guidance does that to you sometimes.

Also, although making a resolution implies a desire for change, permanent change of any kind may be an easy task but not a simple one. According to Dr. Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics), we all have 2 images of ourselves, one internal and the other external. In order to change who we are, we need to change what we believe about ourselves and that is the internal image we hold of ourselves.

For example, if we want to lose weight, we have to believe that we are that very person with the ideal weight. We have to see ourselves and behave as if we are that person. Without changing the internal gauge setting, like a thermostat, if our internal image senses a deviation from the norm, the body with the help of the mind does everything in its power to bring us back to our original weight. We see all the time how individuals lose weight and attain their goal mark only to regain their original weight at a later time and then some.

Specific vocabulary use is also important. If mentally we tell ourselves that we are trying to “lose” weight, we tend to want to “find” it. For instance, what do we do when we lose our keys? We want to search for them. Same thing, if we lose 30 pounds, we tend to go looking for them and end up finding 40 of them. Is there a difference between “lose” and “release?” Using the word “release” may be more effective since it implies an intentional decision.

This is why diets and exercise plans fail, whether they are part of our New Year’s resolutions or one of our goals at any point in our lives.

Over the years, I have stopped making resolutions for the New Year. I don’t think I have ever followed through with any of them. The only difference now is that I have a better understanding of why and as a result, I don’t beat myself up over it. I understand that this is part of the way our mindset works and how the mind and body work together. The mind and its old programming of our old habits (paradigms) are also intimately responsible for everything we believe about ourselves and the world around us. They are responsible for keeping us in our comfort zones, keeping us in our old stories. They are responsible for who we are and whom we don’t become.

Most importantly, however, is realizing that setting up one desired worthwhile goal is part of our soul’s desire for expansion and further expression. This is part of the journey of life, not something you offer up as a trivial New Year’s gimmick. But, being aware that the desired outcome regardless of what it is, only serves as the GPS, the direction in which to start driving, is incredibly important to prevent our obsession with the end goal, but to focus more on the growth we experience from the journey itself. The growth is learning more about who we are. Without knowing who we are, we won’t be aware when our purpose finds us. And so, part of establishing a goal is to make it something that calls to our heart. Our purpose is connected to what we are passionate about.

We must also rely on our intuitive gifts, the download from higher intelligence, to guide us in our journey. This is not from our 5 senses but something beyond that. Meditation is the only tool that allows us access to that realm and there are many types of meditation available to accomplish this. Solutions from our intuition come in the form of a sense of knowing without an explanation. Whenever we act on intuition, it involves getting the message and then acting on it without further thought. Once the intuitive message passes through the egoic mind or accesses the paradigms in the subconscious mind, it loses its power and conviction. Now, the subsequent action is a result of an idea that has been tampered with, if you will, by the old paradigm.

Ultimately, wherever we are at right now, is exactly where we are meant to be. How we are feeling right now is exactly how we are meant to feel. Whatever we are doing right now is what we are meant to do. That is, until it is no longer the case. If we spend more time listening, we will be able to see more clearly how life unfolds for and through us, one small step at a time.

So, instead of making the usual New Year’s resolutions, decide that every day in the New Year, to just keep showing up, to put yourself first, to do what you want and not what you don’t want, to live a life of freedom, to remember you are important, to be grateful and thankful for everything that you are at this very moment because you are more than enough.

Just give yourself love. Yes, love. Lots of love.♥️

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